The Therapist Perspective
This podcast addresses all topics related to creating a healthy relationship with yourself and the people in you life. It is hosted by licensed clinician Daniel Galarza, LCSW. Daniel provides a perspective as a male therapist and husband of 21 years. This podcast focuses on better understanding concepts in relationships that are not discussed enough about relationships. Happily ever after is possible as long as you understand what it means and how to get there.
Episodes
31 episodes
31. Why is Change so Hard?
Whe know what we should be doing to improve our lives. But why don't we just do it? And why don't other people just do what they should be doing. It's not that difficult, right? Listen and find o...
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Episode 31
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10:58
30. Relationship Problems
Relationship problems are normal, right? Yes and No. It's true that most relationships require that couples work out issues. It's part of growing and building a healthy relationship. However, too much conflict creates...
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Episode 30
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10:49
29. It's Not About You
One of the most important aspects of a healthy relationship is learning how to get yourself out of the way. We don't realize how much we get in the way of our relationships. This episode explores the value of not making it about...
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Episode 29
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15:17
28. Types of Selfish People
You might be in a relationship with a selfish person and not even know it. Or maybe you did know it but didn't know how to describe their type of selfish. This episode helps identify 3 types of selfish people. When we ...
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Episode 28
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6:42
27. Fairness in a Relationship
Is fairness in a relationship 50/50? How are we supposed to determine what is fair in a relationship? This episode explores the concept of fairness and how to break down barriers that get in the way. I believe that fairnes...
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Episode 27
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9:15
26. Decent Men vs Good Men
I believe that being decent is too low of a standard for men. The bar is too low when we aim for decency. Let's be good men. Being a good man is not about how much we provide or protect. It is about how good we are t...
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Episode 26
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6:37
25. Is your Relationship Thriving or Surviving?
There is a difference between a relatinoship that is thriving and one that is surviving. I believe that a couple could be more in love 20 years later than the day the got married. Happily ever after is possible when we learn to th...
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Episode 25
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10:09
24. Daniel & Ruby: A True Sense of Self
Are we being our true selves? How would we know? We all feel that we are being authentic, but when we dig deeper we might realize that we are the person others want or need us to be. Ruby and I talk about what it means to be a...
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Episode 24
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26:57
23. Relationship Boundaries
Some of us don't realize the power of boundaries. Boundaries are vital to creating healthy relationships. In this episode I talk about why boundaries are necessary and how to create boundaries in a healthy relationship.
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Episode 23
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10:58
22. Changing vs. Behaving
How do you know if your partner is truly CHANGING or BEHAVING? If you have asked your partner to change aspects of their person that is hurting the relationship, it is good to know if their efforts are real. Most...
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Episode 22
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16:07
21. Communication Barrier - Filling in the Blanks
It is one of the most common communication barriers that I notice as a therapist. The act of filling in the blanks. When we don't fully know or understand something, we fill in the blanks with our own thoughts. The problem ten...
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Episode 21
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7:50
20. Gender Roles in Relationships
Gender roles provide an idea of who we need to be in society and in relationships. But do gender roles help or harm relationships? Many people feel that if men and women were better at understanding their roles that couples w...
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Episode 20
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10:47
19. The Truth will set you Free
Confronting truth is one of the most difficult things we can do. It can keep us in unhappy relationships. It can slow down our personal progress. We often do not even realize that we have created stories to help us deal with r...
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Episode 19
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21:20
18. The Secret to a Happy Relationship
This questions has generally frustrated me. For a very long time I did not agree with people's "secrets to marriage". My wife and I are confident that we have narrowed down one very important aspect to secure a happy relations...
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Episode 18
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12:45
17. How to Create a Healthy Relationship
What do you consider a successful relationship? Longevity is not the bet metric for success. Success in a relationship means fulfilling the promises that were made at the start of the relationship. In this episode I review 5 k...
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Episode 17
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11:56
16. What's Considered Abusive?
Abuse is not always easy to identify. Many people may be in an abusive relatioship and not even know it. Society has a way of normalizing abusive relationships. It is important to know if you may be in an abusive relationship...
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Episode 16
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11:22
15. When to Leave a Relationship
Leaving a relationship can be a very difficult thing to do. This episode focuses on better understanding when to leave a relationship. There is a difference between working on a relationship and surviving in a relationship. &n...
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Episode 15
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20:29
14. Myths about Sex in Relationships (Daniel & Ruby)
As therapists my wife and I frequently encounter unhealthy views about sex in a relationship. This episode addresses important myths about sex in relationships. It's important to distinguish the difference between intimacy and sex.&...
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Episode 14
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21:23
13. How to Improve Self-Esteem
Self-esteem is more than just a feeling. A person can have high self-esteem and be insecure at the same time. It's because of how we define self-esteem. Getting to know your true self is the key to sustainable self-esteem.&nbs...
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Episode 13
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12:35
12. Men and Consent
Consent is a very important aspect of a relationship. Consent means that we respect each other's boundaries. However there are many situations in which consent is not respected. In this podcast episode I discuss the value of m...
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Episode 12
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8:51
11. Men and their Emotions
As men we spend our lives being taught that expressing emotions is a sign of weakness. In this episode I talk about the consequences of reinforcing unhealthy messages about men and their emotions. The better we get at understanding ...
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Episode 11
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7:42
10. Fairness in Relationships- (Daniel & Ruby)
Is fairness in a relationship even possible? Yes, it's definitely possible. Fair relationships are not about scorekeeping. A relatioship is fair when each person feels a sense of balance in the relationship.In this episo...
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Episode 10
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20:31
9. How to be a Mature Person
Maturity does not come with age. To be truly mature you will need to know what it means to be emotinally mature. A person that can self-regulate, respond and not react, and knows their values is a mature person. ...
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Season 1
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Episode 9
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14:42